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Why You Must Read The Hate U Give

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The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas is a young adult novel that vividly addresses issues from the headlines: racism and police violence. It’s a thoughtful, well written book  relevant for today.

Premise

The Hate You GiveSixteen year old Starr Carter lives in a poor, black urban neighborhood, but she attends a fancy, mostly white, private high school in the suburbs. Starr struggles to balance her two distinct worlds and the roles she believes she must play in each of them. When Starr witnesses, at close range, the shooting of a childhood friend, her  worlds collide and her assumptions about justice are challenged. Starr must learn to claim an identity, and a voice, that will serve her in all places and with all kinds of people.

What I like

In The Hate U Give, Thomas planted me firmly in an unfamiliar culture.  (Isn’t that one of the greatest things about books?) Thomas describes Starr’s world using language and dialogue (”Boy, it’s good to see where the Lord done brought you), sounds (gun shots in the night), and images (gang symbols and colors). She forces readers to consider how it feels to be on the receiving end of racist comments, or to be scared simply because a cop pulls up next to you at a stoplight.

There are so many differences between my world and Starr’s, yet Thomas does a good job of showing the similarities too. Starr’s father glares at her boyfriend, and her mother fusses about how to treat other people. Despite our differences, I can still relate to Starr and that’s an important message of The Hate U Give – we can, and should, find ways to connect despite social, cultural, and economic differences.

Another thing I like is the relevance of this book to current events. With disturbing regularity, we hear about police shooting black people in controversial situations.  Clearly, there is an issue in our country that needs addressing. Thomas’s book prompts discussion about this issue.

Finally, the ending of The Hate U Give is not tied up and happy, just like racism is far from resolved in the real world. However, Starr emerges wiser and stronger from her experiences.

There are several powerful lines in The Hate U Give, including:

When Starr realizes she’s allowed one of her white friends to get by with racist comments, she says, “That’s the problem. We let people say stuff, and they say it so much that it becomes okay to them and normal for us. What’s the point of having a voice if you’re gonna be silent in those moments you shouldn’t be?” Pow!

And finally, Thomas closes her acknowledgments in the back of the book with this:

“And to every kid in Georgetown and in all ‘the Gardens’ of the world: your voices matter, your dreams matter, your lives matter. Be roses that grow in the concrete.”

Thomas’s story is powerful, but those two sentences of hers are my favorites.

Recommendation

Although this is a young adult novel, I think readers of all ages, above about 12, should read The Hate U Give. Hopefully, it will prompt thoughtful discussion about racism and its consequences.

The movie adaptation of The Hate You Give comes out October 19.  Read the book quickly, before you see the movie.  Here’s the trailer:

Notes on content

The Hate U Give includes violence and profanity that may not be appropriate for younger readers.

Can you share some reading suggestions that tackle the subject of racism? I really enjoyed Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult.

Happy reading!

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What It Means to “Spill the Tea”

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One of the benefits of living with teenagers is, if you’re a Word Nerd, the exposure to all kinds of new and interesting vocabulary.  A few days ago, my daughter was filling me in on current social drama at her school when she said, “And she totally spilled the tea about that situation.”

I paused. “The tea?”

She said, “You know, the gossip, the good stuff.”

Ok, like spilling the beans.  But where in the world did this phrase come from? The Word Nerd did some research, and apparently teens aren’t the only ones using this term:

According to Merriam Webster, the phrase comes from black drag culture, much like “shade”.  It appeared in print way back in 1994 in John Berendt’s non-fiction book Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil.  In it, Berendt interviews Lady Chablis, a popular drag performer in Savannah, GA.  While describing her dating life, Chablis says she avoids men who get violent when they find out “her T”.  Berendt asks her explain “T”, and she says, “Yeah, my T. My thing, my business, what’s goin’ on in my life.”

T or tea in drag culture means truth, either a hidden personal truth or someone else’s hidden truth.  “Tea” is currently used in general to mean gossip, especially if it’s juicy.

The comedian Larry Wilmore used the phrase “weak tea” on his Comedy Central show to suggest someone wasn’t telling the whole truth.  Other writers have used this term too:

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So, when someone asks you to “spill the tea”, they are encouraging you to gossip.  Do with that what you will.

Have you heard or used “spill the tea” yourself?  Can you share another interesting slang term?

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Why You Must Watch The Post

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I was late to see Steven Spielberg’s drama The Post, but I’m so glad I finally did, especially now, when the relationship between The President and The Press is at the forefront again.    The Post depicts controversial events from the Nixon administration, but its commentary on the role of a free press in a democracy is timeless, and especially relevant given today’s headlines.

The Premise

The Post stars Meryl Streep as Katherine Graham, newly appointed publisher of The Washington Post, and Tom Hanks as her tenacious editor, Ben Bradlee.  The year is 1971, and President Nixon has prohibited The New York Times from publishing The Pentagon Papers, documents that demonstrated that the U.S. government lied to the American public about The Vietnam War for decades.  Nixon claims he’s protecting national security; journalists across the country believe he is attempting legalized censorship.

The NYT sues, and while the country waits for a judgement from The Supreme Court, Ben Bradlee gets his hands on The Pentagon Papers and encourages Graham to publish them in The Washington Post.  Graham must choose between the best interests of her company and the best interests of the American public.

What I Liked

Graham was one of the first women in America to publish a newspaper, and even though The Washington Post had been her family’s business for years, the only reason she had the job was because her husband died.  No one expected her, a woman, to be able to handle the job.  Certainly no one expected her to risk her reputation, financial stability, and freedom in the name of free press.  But she did.

I attended high school in a suburb of Washington DC, and as editor of our school newspaper, I spent a lot of time studying The Washington Post and Graham and admiring her as a woman of influence in journalism.  The Post depicts her as a stumbling, somewhat unsure character, especially initially.  It was interesting to watch her grow into her power and gain confidence.  Graham’s decision to publish is an inspiring tale of courage for women and anyone who feels oppressed.

The Post explores a time when the relationship between journalists and politicians was changing.  Bradlee was a close friend of JFK, and that affected how he covered the presidency.  Over the course of The Post, Bradlee realizes he can no longer be friendly with politicians if he wants to do his job well.  At one point, a character alludes to Justice Hugo L. Black’s opinion in the NYT case, saying, “The founding fathers gave the free press the protection it must have to fulfill its essential role in our democracy. The press was to serve the governed, not the governors.”  I love that quote.

The message of the movie is clear: a democracy must protect freedom of the press to function effectively.  This is such an important lesson, especially when public officials decry the media as “fake news.”  Or when lawyers say that “truth isn’t truth.”  When two parties disagree, it’s hard to determine which person’s story is true.  However, there is always truth somewhere, and with regards to the running of our country, it’s our collective job to find it.  The free press helps us do that.

I liked how Spielberg and the actors captured the drama of this quiet but very important fight in American history.  It could have been a dry story, especially since we know the outcome, but Spielberg keeps up the suspense until the end.

What I didn’t like

The initial portrayal of Graham as somewhat bumbling bothered me, but fortunately she gets stronger as the movie progresses.

Recommendation

If you are a fan of history, politics, journalism, or Hanks and Streep, I highly recommend this movie.  It’s a docu-drama done well.

Have you seen The Post?  What did you think of it?  Are there any other books or movies you can recommend that explore similar themes? 

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How to Survive the College Drop Off

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The big day is quickly approaching.  The one when I pack up a van with bedding, towels, and clothes.  Drive three hours away.  Drop off my son to live on his own at college.  There are so many good things about this change.

  • He’s ready.
  • He’s excited.
  • All the fun things to do at college!
  • He will learn how to use the gifts he’s been given to make this world a better place.
  • He’s going to my alma mater, one of my favorite places on the planet.

But.

I’m amazed by the number of emotions I feel at one time:  joy, excitement, pride, nostalgia, worry, sadness.  I’m excited he has this opportunity, and yet, he is the child who rubs my back when he knows I’m stressed.  I love his smile, his sense of humor, his driven nature.

I will miss him.

I will miss not just his physical presence in my days, but also his childhood.  Now he is becoming a man, and our relationship will change.  I remind myself that change isn’t bad.  It’s natural, it’s normal, it often leads to good.  (Like, the transition from Pull Ups to underpants was a great thing, right?)

A wise friend told me to start praying about this day years ago, so that when the time came, I’d be ready. And I am, mostly, although I plan to keep a pair of sunglasses handy for that final goodbye.  I don’t want to embarrass the boy with my tears.

Photo credit: Maggie via Flickr CC-BY

To help me, and anyone else who needs this, prepare for the BIG DAY, I asked some experienced writer friends to share tips for the college drop off. Dana and Amy both took their oldest children to school last fall, and they have some excellent ideas for making the day go smoothly.

Dana, at Kiss My List, says:

Planning is the key to a smooth college drop-off. You can’t control the emotional weight of the day, but you can control other factors, and this will help you get through the process with less angst.
 
  1. Do your homework ahead of time. Find out the wheres and whens of drop-off, unloading and parking. Decide who is staying with the car until it’s empty, who is moving stuff in, who will park the car, etc.
  2. Let your student decide where everything goes in the room. It’s his space, not yours. You don’t want him texting you to ask where you put his underwear, do you?
  3. Amazon has everything your student may need once you leave. Everyone else will be hitting Target or Walmart that day, and those stores are more crowded than they are on Black Friday. Last minute shopping will just add to the stress; there is nothing he needs that desperately.
  4. Before drop-off day, write a note to your student. I tucked mine under my daughter’s pillow for her to find that evening. Two years later, she still has it in her desk.
  5.  Avoid prolonged goodbyes. A hug, an “I love you,” and a swift exit is best for everyone. You can cry in the car. This is an exciting time for your student, but even good change is stressful. He doesn’t need the additional stress of seeing his mom or dad lose it.
  6. Make plans for when you get home – dinner with friends, a movie (comedy, please!), or anything else that brings you joy. You’ll have something to look forward to, and the activity will be a good distraction.
  7. Be kind to yourself. It’s a big adjustment, but you’ll be okay. And so will your baby.

Amy Makechnie, published author and mother of four, had to take her daughter across the country to start college. Amy offers this advice:

  1. Pack lightly. Dorm rooms are small. You really don’t need 100 books, old journals, scrapbooks, or photo albums – there’s too much fun to be had to be reliving the past!
  2. DO bring a framed picture of your family. Amazing how much more you love each other when you’re not living with one another.
  3. Take your child to college, if you can. I’m so glad I did. At 18, my husband flew across the country by himself – I still think that’s such a sad scene!
  4. Put a note under your child’s pillow or hidden somewhere. He/she will find it at just the right time. Maybe a $20 bill, as well.
  5. Say good-bye quickly. Cry later. This isn’t about YOU. This is a VERY exciting time for your child.
  6. Let them go. It’s time to fly.
  7. Keep their room at home for them. At least for the first year! Nothing says, “welcome back” like a sibling completely usurping your room and every possession in it!  I always want my children to feel that they have a place and a room to come home to, no matter where they go. You don’t need a shrine(!) but that first year, when everything is changing so much, I think it’s important for your child to know that home stays the same (and hopefully that “same” is a good one!)

Did you notice how the note thing appeared twice?  That’s a must.  I’ve got a draft already.

Do you have any other suggestions for surviving the college drop off?  

Thanks for getting sentimental with me,

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Five Fun Things To Do in San Diego

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If you haven’t been to San Diego, you must visit. It’s warm and sunny almost every day, and there are fabulous things to do, like petting a rhinoceros at the Safari Park or traveling over two miles through the clouds up Mt. San Jacinto. Sound thrilling? It was! Here are five things I highly recommend if you are ever near San Diego.

Kayaking on Mission Bay

We rented kayaks from Mission Bay Aquatics Center and spent the morning paddling around Mission Bay. The staff at MBAC was extremely helpful and friendly, and there were free lockers to store small items. Mission Bay is great for kayaking- it’s self-contained and fairly calm, there are small beaches to explore, and there is little motor traffic. While paddling, we saw two amphibious boats used for seal watching— basically big blue buses floating on the surface of the water! Rentals were inexpensive: $21/single/2.5 hours and $26/double/2.5 hours. You can also rent sailboats and paddle boards. The only negative was parking- the lot at MBAC was full, and we had to find pay/ street parking. When you venture out on the water, be prepared to navigate around large groups of novice sailors and paddle boarders close to the MBAC.

Torrey Pines State Preserve

At Torrey Pines State Preserve you will find beach access, hiking trails, and one of the few places where Torrey Pines still grow. They are beautiful trees with twisting trunks and branches that reminded my son of something from a Dr. Seuss book. We took the Guy Flemming Trail and were treated to gorgeous, panoramic views of the coast. Access fees range from $12-20, depending on the day and season (fees are higher on weekends and during high season, spring-Sept).

The view of the Pacific Coast from the Guy Flemming trail.

The San Diego Zoo Safari Park

The Safari Park promotes education about animal conservation and does much research to keep fragile species alive. Some of us did the Caravan Safari and rode a truck into a huge animal enclosure. We got to feed a giraffe: note, giraffe saliva is the same consistency as hair gel. Another note: giraffes have huge, beautiful eyelashes.

We were also lucky enough to feed and pet a rhino mom and her “baby” (who weighed 500 pounds). We just leaned over and dropped apple slices into their waiting mouths (which happened to have very large teeth.) The other half of our crew rode a zip line across the enclosure in a Flightline Safari.

Please note the teeth!

In the new Walkabout Australia section, we walked through an area with loose kangaroos and wallabies playing nearby. A kangaroo literally jumped right in front of me across the path.

We spent the entire day there, and it’s well worth the entry fee ($54 for 12+). If you plan on going to the San Diego Zoo also, get a 2 day pass and save yourself some $$. (2 day pass is $86.40 for 12+)

The San Diego Zoo

The world-renowned San Diego Zoo did not disappoint, even though we had already spent a day at the Safari Park. It’s clean, with lots of trees to provide shade from the San Diego sun. We saw a mama hippo napping with her head on her baby’s back, as well as a Giant Panda enjoying a mid day snack. Again, education and conservation were the focus. My family loved it, especially the snuggling koalas and the mama leopard with her two cubs.

San Diego Zoo
I mean, how adorable!

At both the Zoo and the Safari Park, we found the best time to visit the animals was early morning or evening; they tend to sleep during the hot, midday hours. Food inside both parks was pricey, but we felt better knowing the money was going toward animal conservation. Tickets same price as for the Safari Park.

Palm Springs Tramway

We drove over two hours to Palm Springs, but the day long excursion was worth it. We parked at the base of Mt. San Jacinto in the desert, then rode the Palm Springs Tramway two and a half miles up the mountain to access hiking trails at 9000 feet. The tram ride is “amazing and terrifying”, as my daughter described it. The floor of the circular tram car slowly rotated during the ten minute ride, giving visitors views in all directions.

The tram ran on cables supported by five towers, and at every tower, the tram swung, prompting stomach lurches and contemplation of the meaning of life (’cause it felt like it was about to end.)  Comments from my husband regarding the likelihood of our tram falling did not help my anxiety during the trip, but I squeezed his hand tight (perhaps cutting off blood flow), and survived unscathed.

There were lots of hiking trails available from the mountain station, and we opted to hike to the “saddle” of the mountain, a six mile adventure round trip. The trail was steep at times, and the altitude change slowed the adults down. The teens did just fine and enjoyed scaling giant boulders along the trail while the old people caught up. (Excuse me, oldER). The views at our destination were well worth the thigh-burning climb.

Mt. San Jacinto
The view from Mt. San Jacinto

Fees for the tram are $25.95 for adults (aged 10+). Hiking is free, but you must obtain a permit if you go beyond the ranger station.
Word Nerd note: The Palm Springs Tramway is an engineering feat from the 1960s. Helicopters flew 23,000 missions over 24 months of construction to build the towers for the tramway.

Have you ever visited any of these or other noteworthy sights in San Diego? Please share. We stayed with friends, but if you have any tips about lodging, please share those as well.

Thanks for “traveling” with me!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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What is Glamping?

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In my latest read, Sophie Kinsella’s My (not so) Perfect Life, protagonist Katie Brenner gets fired from her marketing job in London and must return home to her father’s farm.  While she secretly hunts for another job in the city, she helps her father set up a glamping destination.

Yes, that’s right, I said glamping.  Think bed and breakfast in a yurt.  Don’t know what a yurt is either?  Let me explain.

According to the website Glamping.com, glamping (glamour + camping) is “travel that transforms you”.  It’s for people who want a more “authentic experience” than a stay in a hotel with standardized fixtures.  Glamping provides travelers with the opportunity to immerse themselves in nature and culture without sacrificing comfort.  Some glamping destinations include a tree house in the forest canopy, a yurt on a mountainside, or an eco-lodge with gorgeous views.

When Katie Brenner tries to describe glamping to her dad, she says,

They want nice soap, but they want to use it looking at the sky, listening to cows.  They want to feel rural, but not actually be rural.

She suggests outdoor showers with wooden pails that drench glampers, high count thread sheets, and yurts.

Which reminds me.  This is a yurt:

Photo credit Bernd Thaller via Flickr CC-BY

According to Greenfuture.io, yurts are circular tent-like structures originally used by nomads on the grassy plains of central Asia.  They were solid enough to provide a good home, but were easy to pack up and move when necessary.  The Mongolian people used them, and in the Mongolian language they are called “ger”.

Yurts are no longer just for nomads or society averse hippies.  They are gaining popularity for several reasons

  • it’s more affordable to construct a yurt than a typical home ($10,000 to $50,000)
  • modern yurts have more comfort features, including electricity, windows, and plumbing
  • yurts are eco-friendly; they are usually energy-efficient and have little environmental impact

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Have I inspired a desire for a new traveling experience for you?  Hopefully I’ve at least taught you something new.  If you like to learn new words, visit Kathy at Bermuda Onion, where bloggers share new words or ones they love.

Have you ever heard of glamping or yurts?  Better yet, have you ever experienced either first hand?  Please share!

Thanks for getting nerdy with me, and happy summer travels, no matter your style or destination.