What is Niksen and why is it good?

What is niksen?

We are now in our fourth month of the COVID-19 pandemic, and many people are getting frustrated with staying at home. I’ve had several friends complain about feeling bored and stuck.

But what if being bored is good for us?

Niksen means doing nothing

Enter the Dutch concept of niksen – which translates to doing nothing, to being idle, or doing something of no use. According to articles in The New York Times and Time Magazine, all of us could benefit from niksen as an antidote to the stress of our current style of living and a challenge to the idea the being busy gives us value.

In the Netherlands, niksen has long been dismissed as lazy and counterproductive, but as stress levels rise, and along with them, negative effects on our physical and mental health, more experts are touting niksen as a beneficial and necessary practice not just in the Netherlands, but around the world. If we embrace niksen, we all might be more calm and less exhausted. We could also boost our creativity and become better problem solvers!

I don’t know about you, but could use a little more creativity and calm in my life.

Tips for practicing niksen

We have been told for years that being busy means being successful, so making the time to do nothing could be a hard habit to embrace. Plan time in your day for niksen breaks. Figure out when you are most productive and when your energy starts to wane. At the first sign of sleepiness or mental fatigue, take a niksen break: take a walk (without listening to an audio book or podcast!), stare out the window, or find a comfy chair and day dream. And leave your device someplace else.

Set up your environment to practice niksen. Have chairs that face windows instead of TVs. Create a device free space. Identify areas in and near your home that support idleness.

Resist the culture of business, and don’t feel guilty about saying no or taking breaks. Your brain and your body need time to relax. If you practice niksen, you aren’t being lazy, you are taking good care of yourself, something we don’t do enough.

Ironically, these two articles, The Case for Doing Nothing and Niksen Is the Dutch Lifestyle Concept of Doing Nothing—And You’re About to See It Everywhere were published in spring of 2019, well before any of us anticipated The Great Corona Virus Quarantine of 2020. I know you are tired of laying low, but hopefully learning about niksen will help you turn “stuck at home” into “practicing good health”, in more ways than one. 😉

Sidebar: my dad is Dutch, and I can’t wait to hear if he’s familiar with this concept!

If you’re interested in other trends from foreign countries, check out my post on the Danish concept of hygge. Next week, I’ll share more ideas for boosting creativity.

Wondrous Words Wednesday

If you like to learn new words and the origins of their meanings, visit the Wondrous Words Wednesday meme at Bermuda Onion. Each Wednesday, bloggers share new words they’ve learned.

How are you managing your extended time “staying at home”?

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

A demonstration of unity

Fear circulated through my little town earlier this week as word spread about a planned march for Black Lives Matter. The anxiety was fueled by news reports of violence and looting in cities across the country, and by concerns circulating on social media that outsiders might come to our town to cause disruption.

My daughter and a few of her friends are upset about the inequality and injustice they see in our country, and they wanted to attend the event. I figured nothing too awful could happen in our little Southwest Virginia town, and I went with her, clarifying that the minute we sensed things were getting out of control, we would bail.

We had nothing to worry about.

Photo credit: Millie Rothrock, The Wytheville Enterprise

The Peaceful March for Black Lives Matter in Wytheville, Virginia was not violent, disruptive, or hostile. It was an amazing testament to what can be accomplished when people come together for good.

Before the March began, we bowed our heads in prayer, calling on a God of love to watch over the demonstration, to cover it in peace, and to enact change through the speech and actions of people present. The pastor leading the prayer reminded us of the powerful words of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, Civil Rights Activist:

After the prayer, a few hundred people of various colors, ages, and backgrounds walked in solidarity along Main Street, in the company of uniformed police officers. The atmosphere reminded me of running a race, with everyone encouraging each other to strive toward a common goal. There were even people handing out water bottles and Gatorade!

The March was organized by an 18 year old African-American girl who wanted bring awareness to our town. She led the crowd up Main St with a bull horn in her hand, shouting George Floyd’s name and leading us in chants demanding change, like, “No justice, no peace.” and “Hands up, don’t shoot.” Her voice sometimes cracked with emotion and effort, and I was humbled and inspired by the stamina of this young woman, not only for her physical ability to shout continually during our 20 minute walk, but for the mental strength required to organize such an event in a small, predominately white town, and to carry it through with grace and poise. She demonstrated the good that is possible when people come together in light and love to overcome darkness and hate.

The event was covered by local media and found its way onto Facebook. While the overall tone of comments was positive, some people noted the lack of social distancing. Others asked if this gathering was allowed, why couldn’t churches start meeting again? Or why, if people could collect for this demonstration, couldn’t high schools hold regular graduation services? While these are valid questions, I hope they don’t detract from the message of the March.

We can be the light, and we can create change.

What are you doing today to help make change? How have you been inspired this tumultuous week?

Thanks for getting thoughtful with me,

What’s the story behind the trench coat?

trench coat

I’ve been pretty serious on the blog lately, with pandemic inspired vocabulary and book reviews about sobering topics. So I thought I’d tackle a light issue for Wondrous Words Wednesday: the trench coat.

My youngest child, and most frequent inspiration for blog posts on word etymology, asked upon leaving my daughter’s science fair (pre-quarantine), “Why is it called a trench coat?” The kids presenting their projects were dressed up in “professional attire”, and a few boys donned trench coats before heading outside.

Trench coats have also been on my brain because I’m rereading Eleanor and Park, a great contemporary YA set in the 80’s, and main character Park wears a trench coat. Like Eleanor and Park, I suffered through high school in the 1980’s, and I remember a certain population of kids who liked to trudge through the halls in black trench coats and bulky combat boots.

So trench coats. This was supposed to be a light topic, but sadly, if we look for the origin of trench coats, we find ourselves in World War I. 🙁

History of the trench coat

Photo of woman wearing a trench coat
Khaki Burberry Trench Coat Spy Baroness1 atomtetsuwan2002 via flickr CC-BY-SA

As you may have guessed, the trench coat was born out of the need for a lightweight, flexible, and weatherproof coat to wear in the trenches of WWI. But, this article from the Smithsonian Magazine shares a few more interesting details about the rise of the trench coat in the 20th century, and why it’s still so popular today.

Turns out the origins of the trench coat began in the early 1800’s, when fashion designers were striving to find weatherproof material that was still classy enough for gentlemen. There was the “mack”, created by Charles Mackintosh in 1823, a coat made of rubberized cotton that unfortunately smelled bad and melted in the sun.

Later, John Emary developed a water repellent fabric to use for wet weather gear, and he named his clothing company “Aquascutum”, from the Latin for water (aqua) and shield (scutum). Shortly after that, Thomas Burberry came out with gabardine, a breathable, waterproof twill material that didn’t smell so bad.

When WWI started, British officers wore heavy, uncomfortable great coats made out of wool. As they spent more time in the muddy, rat infested trenches, it became obvious they needed something more functional. At the time, officers were from the upper classes and bought their own uniforms. They appealed to fashion designers for a coat that provided adequate protection but still kept them looking sharp, since fashion reinforced social hierarchy, even in the trenches. Thus the trench coat was born. Both Burberry and Aquascutum take credit for the design.

The trench coat has remained a fashion staple until today. A trench coat typically is double breasted, with a wide cut below the waist that allows ease of movement yet still covers much of the body. The belt at the waist gives visual appeal; it also gave officers in the trenches a place to attach accessories. The cape inspired shape encourages water to roll off, and the deep pockets are perfect for carrying things like smart phones (British officers used them for maps).

Unfortunately, the trench coat made officers easy to identify, and many were shot by snipers. After suffering significant losses, the military had to pull officers from the lower classes, and these “temporary gentleman” (yes, they actually called them that), sought out more affordable versions of the trench coat to garner respect in their new status. The coat also gained popularity in broader social circles because people liked wearing military inspired clothing, perhaps as a sign of patriotism or to feel connected to those fighting on the front. Soon, the trench coat was everywhere.

After the war, the trench coat became a symbol of worldliness and ruggedness, which was underscored by popular Hollywood movies. Humphrey Bogart wore a trench coat in iconic movies like The Maltese Falcon and Casa Blanca.

Experts think the trench coat remains popular today, because, like blue jeans, it is a fashion item that rose of out necessity yet remains timelessly functional and stylish.

Do you have a trench coat? Mine is bright green and I love to wear it on rainy days in the spring! 🙂

Wondrous Words Wednesday

If you like to learn new words and the origins of their meanings, visit the Wondrous Words Wednesday meme at Bermuda Onion. Each Wednesday, bloggers share new words they’ve learned.

Got another fashion term, or any word, that inspires your curiosity? Share it in the comments!

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

Why you should read What Made Maddy Run

What Made Maddy Run is a challenging book to read in this time of pandemic and quarantine. But it’s important.

Madison “Maddy” Holleran was a superstar athlete and student from an affluent town in New Jersey. She had straight A’s, a beautiful smile, a reputation for winning, and an Instagram profile that documented her fabulous life. She was recruited to the University of Pennsylvania to run college track and cross country and started at U Penn in August, 2013, thrilled to be attending the Ivy League school of her dreams.

In January, 2014, after struggling for months with disappointment and depression, Maddy committed suicide.

In What Made Maddie Run, sports writer Kate Fagan explores the forces, including depression, anxiety, and the pressure to perform in a social media driven world, that might have contributed to Maddy’s struggles. It is an informative and insightful look into college athletics, mental illness, and the challenges young adults face. Fagan uses interviews with Maddy’s friends and family, as well as information from Maddy’s interactions via text and email, to assemble clues about what Maddy was thinking and why she decided to take her life.

What I liked

I’ve long been concerned about the negative effects of social media and the excess of omnipresent, but shallow, connections it encourages. In What Made Maddy Run, Fagan explores the influence of social media on all of us, but especially teens and young adults. She says, “Comparing your every day existence to someone else’s highlight reel is dangerous for both of you”, and points out that while its easier to “stay in touch” via text, “efficient communication does not mean effective communication” and cites evidence that texting and interacting via Instagram and Snapchat do little to help people when they are in distress.

Here is a quote that spoke to me:

Very little of what we say in text is a literal representation of how we feel, what we’re doing, how we’re behaving. It’s an animated, easy to digest version, an exaggeration or a simplification, but not a reflection. And that would be fine, if it weren’t the main way we now communicate with one another.

Kate Fagan, What Made Maddy Run

Fagan also looks at the shift from high school to college and how the transition can contribute to stress, anxiety, and depression, especially for athletes. In high school, the steps to “success” are easy to see: get good grades, excel at sports, do well on the SAT, participate in volunteer and leadership activities. It’s exhausting, but not confusing. High achievers just keep reaching for the next rung on the ladder. But once students get to college, the ladder morphs into a tree with many, many branches. Choices are more plentiful, and progress is harder to track. It left a girl like Maddy Holleran, used to straight A’s and first place medals, overwhelmed and confused about who she was and where she fit in. Important things for me, the mother of a daughter transitioning to college this fall, to consider.

Finally, What Made Maddy Run looks at how our society has come to measure success in very narrow terms, and how that can negatively affect the physical and mental health of our children.

What I didn’t like

I listened to the audio book of What Made Maddie Run, which Fagan reads herself. While I could at times hear the emotion in her voice and could tell how invested she was in telling Maddy’s story sensitively, often her reading was stilted. Also, sometimes, Fagan digresses into comparisons into her own life, which included playing basketball for the University of Colorado, and while I suspect she intended to add dimension and legitimacy with these side stories, (she struggled as a college athlete too), I mostly wanted to hear about Maddy’s story.

Recommendation

What Made Maddy Run is a great book to read if you are a young adult who struggles with anxiety or depression or pressure to perform, or if you are the friend or parent of someone who does. It does not sensationalize Maddy’s suicide, but instead offers important things to consider and is a much needed conversation starter about the difficult, but very real, issue of mental illness and the influence of social media on our society. It is of course sad, (no surprise, I cried), so if you are feeling down during the quarantine, perhaps you should wait.

Have you heard of Maddy Holleran? Can you recommend other books that address mental illness, pressure to perform, or the influence of social media?

Thanks for getting thoughtful with me today.

A peek into celebrity bookshelves

Today, a guest post from Isabel Cabrera of Global English Editing.

Reading books has so many benefits. Science shows that reading can make us mentally sharper and healthier, and it is a great way to unwind and relax too. Not to mention, reading books is just plain fun. However, with so many books out there, what should you read? 

When it comes to book recommendations, your first point of call may not always be celebrities. Yet on social media and in interviews, celebrities are often touting their favorite books and the new ones they’re enjoying reading. You may be surprised to learn that some of their recommendations are actually really good.

Global English Editing found the book recommendations of 20 popular celebrities and created this great infographic, The Book Shelves of 20 Surprisingly Smart Celebrities.

Did you know that Amy Poehler’s favorite books include A Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens and Away by Amy Bloom? Or that Dwight Shrute (aka Rainn Wilson) loved The Seven Mysteries of Life: An Exploration of Science and Philosophy?

As you’ll see, the bookshelves of these 20 celebrities are as diverse and interesting as the reading list of any bookworm.

Check out the infographic below and you may just find your next great read.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

How do you pronounce GIF?

As COVID-19 restrictions continue, and we all start to get a little shifty in our self-containment, let’s ponder something light, entertaining, and very Word Nerdy: GIFs.

I never use My Story on Instagram, but if I’m going to gain traction on that platform (my personal favorite), I need to learn. A writer friend shared a template that I needed to fill with GIFs to post on My IG Story. I recruited help from my 18 year old daughter to assist with the project, and GIFs came up.

Daughter: (Swiping quickly and repeatedly across my phone screen). Save the template, now just search for GIFs to fill it in.

Me: Is it pronounced JIF or with a hard G, like guts?

Daughter: I don’t know! I hear it both ways.

Well, this Word Nerd had to find out.

According to an article in Time magazine dated Feb 25, 2020, the history of the pronunciation of GIF has been colorful and controversial. The GIF, or Graphics Interchange Format, is the name for a looping animations used in social media and texts. It was invented in June 1987 by Steve Wilhite at Compuserve. He said it was pronounced “JIF”, like the peanut butter, but debate started immediately.

In 2012, Oxford Dictionaries USA selected GIF as its Word of the Year and stated it could be properly pronounced with either a hard g (like graphic) or a soft g (like giant). However, in 2014, President Barack Obama declared his official position of pronouncing it with a hard g. A survey conducted in 2014 found that most Americans agreed with Obama (or perhaps he influenced them?). The use of a hard g beat the soft g, 54% to 41%.

A popular argument for the hard g pronunciation: since Graphics uses a hard g, GIF should too. However, if we held to that rule, we’d have to pronounce JPEG as JPheg, since the P stands for Photo, and we’d need to pronounce SCUBA as SCUhBA, since the U in underwater is a short u.

In the years following, various media outlets, like Mental Floss and Newsweek, got the help of linguistics professors to back up different pronunciations. At this point, there is no definitive way to pronounce GIF, but this video makes a compelling, if not somewhat hostile, argument for using a soft g.

So, at this point, I guess you can go with your preference, but I prefer “JIF”. It’s easier to say, and it’s the name the creator gave it. I respect that.

How do you pronounce GIF? What other tech words do you want to know more about?

Wondrous Words Wednesday

If you like to learn new words and the origins of their meanings, visit the Wondrous Words Wednesday meme at Bermuda Onion. Each Wednesday, bloggers share new words they’ve learned.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!