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A new idea for Valentine Pink

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Exactly 30 years ago on February 14, my hubby bent down on one knee near the glowing lights of The Rotunda and asked me to marry him.

This, after he’d said many times in the previous months that he would NEVER pick an obvious day, like Valentine’s Day or my birthday, to propose. He truly surprised me that cold February night. I also got a dozen roses to commemorate the day.

Several decades later, I still love that wonderful guy who proposed on The Lawn. Even if he never gives me flowers anymore. Things change, like…

Ten years ago, I had four children at home, and Valentine’s Day triggered The Great Writing of the Cards. Sometimes I, in a fever dream inspired by Pinterest, dreamed of making handmade Valentines. My creative side loved the idea! But here’s the thing. Four children x 24 classmates = a lot of red paper to cut. So, instead, I escorted my kids, aged 5 through 12, down the red and pink holiday aisle of Walmart to find the right cards to hand out at school. Everyone gravitated to something different. Foldable basketball hoops for the eldest. Princesses for the girl. Super heroes for the younger two. And we couldn’t forget to buy candy for all those cards.

A fabulous Valentine party idea inspired by Amy Makechnie!

Back at home, we spread out (and sometimes punched out) the cards on the kitchen table. Got out the class lists and pencils or pens. (Again, everyone wanted something different.) Chose a card for each classmate and wrote their name on the card (not too big!) While I appreciated the exercise in penmanship (Wait, do parents print up Valentine labels now? Or are Valentine greetings delivered via TikTok?), and the even more important lesson of being generous and inclusive with the giving of greetings, Valentine’s Day wore me out. Let’s not even discuss the aftermath of the classroom Valentine party. (I was the mom who always brought in a fruit tray.)

As my kids morphed into teens who would NOT DREAM of sending Valentines (except for my girl who made them for her friends), I shifted to a cookie baking tradition. I found a fabulous recipe that included a touch of almond extract and an awesome frosting. My giant heart shaped cookies always got rave reviews.

This year, I’m not sure how we will “do” Valentine’s Day. I do not expect, or even desire, roses or a romantic dinner. My youngest, the only child at home, and hubby will surely appreciate the giant heart sugar cookies, but shouldn’t there be something else?

It occurred to me while pondering this upcoming Hallmark holiday that “pink” (the ubiquitous color for Valentine’s Day) looks a lot like the word “kind.” Check out the letters in each word. Shuffle the i, n, k, and rotate the p 180 degrees. You get kind!

How about, instead of rolling our eyes every time we see pink and red in the next week, we take those cupids and hearts as a reminder to BE KIND. You don’t need a special “Valentine” to celebrate the holiday. You just need to bring kind-heartedness to the people around you.

You also need chocolate. Just a few pieces. I like Ghirardelli’s Dark Chocolate, caramel, and sea salt. What about you?

How do you plan to celebrate Valentine’s Day?

Happy Valentine’s Day!  Remember, PINK=KIND!

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Improving vocabulary

What you should know about “boilerplate”

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Last week, I wrote about the benefits and limitations of ChatGPT. And just a few things we need to be concerned about regarding this new technology.

One common criticism of ChatGPT, or a point that some techies use to placate fears that ChatGPT will displace writers and journalists, is that ChatGPT creates “boilerplate” text. It’s good at filler and forms, but not poetry or novels.

Yes, this is comforting to a Word Nerd who would like to publish, but it also brought up another question. Where in the world does “boilerplate” come from and why do we use it to refer to boring filler text? A lawyer recently used “boilerplate” to describe the lengthy and clearly not personalized trust that my father paid another lawyer for years ago.

Thank you Merriam-Webster for an enlightening answer!

The term boilerplate was first used in 1893. Back then, small town newspapers depended on copy from large publishing syndicates to fill their pages. The syndicates sent editorials and feature articles already set in type on plates to the small papers, making the copy easy to print. Printers called the plates “boiler plates” because they looked like the plating used for steam boilers. Eventually, “boilerplate” referred to the stories on the plates as well as the plates themselves. Since the quality of those stories wasn’t great, “boilerplate” came to refer to unoriginal writing.

So, here are our current definitions for boilerplate:

  • : syndicated material supplied especially to weekly newspapers in matrix or plate form
  • : standardized text
  • : formulaic or hackneyed language, e.g., “bureaucratic boilerplate“

Now you know!

Can you share a term with unusual origin? I’d love it if it was related to writing or newspapers.

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Words and Technology

What you need to know about ChatGPT

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Chat GPT, an Artificial Intelligence chat bot, launched in November 2022, and now, it’s everywhere. Each day I read something about Chat GPT in my news feed or hear hosts discussing it on podcasts. Tech enthusiasts revel in its possibilities. Teachers fear it will promote cheating. Creatives worry it will steal their jobs. But what is it?

What is generative AI?

Artificial intelligence has been around for a while, and most of us use it every day. Do you talk to Siri or customer service robots? Then you use AI. In simple terms, traditional AI analyzes large amounts of data to find patterns and make predictions. The new trend in AI is generative AI, which is what ChatGPT is. Generative AI collects tons of data inputs, such as words, descriptions, images, or computer code, and creates something “novel” in response to a prompt. For example, one could ask a generative AI model to create a painting of a dog in the style of Van Gogh, and it would create something that looks like a Van Gogh painting. But isn’t.

What is ChatGPT? 

ChatGPT is a language processing model that provides “human like” text responses to prompts. For example, you can ask it to write a poem about cats or an essay about World War II. Chat GPT is run by Open AI, a research lab backed by Microsoft. ChatGPT is a form of generative AI.

Generative AI models have been around for a while, but lately they are getting more attention because Chat GPT is free and open to the public. All you need to use it is an account with Open AI and ChatGPT.

This is what you find about ChatGPT on the OpenAI website.

What are the benefits of ChatGPT?

Open AI says ChatGPT has huge potential for more efficient work. It could help content creators by providing tips on marketing strategies and copy for websites, blogs, and social media posts. ChatGPT can take over tedious tasks and open up more time for employees to work on higher level thinking, like research and strategy.

Some argue ChatGPT can do some basic tasks better than humans can, because it sees patterns humans do not. For example, ChatGPT might do a better job of writing copy for a website to maximize search engine optimization. It can also, ironically, do a better job of personalizing text.

Another benefit: improved internet searches. Some believe a model like ChatGPT will eventually replace search engines like Google. The generative AI can give users actual information, not just links to websites.

And on the coding front, ChatGPT can make basic coding faster. In fact, Microsoft is putting a lot of money into developing generative AI because it wants to use AI tools as “pair programmers” to improve coding efficiency.  AI can often debug code faster than humans can. I bet my son, who recently spent six hours debugging a program at work, would pay attention to that.

Limitations of ChatGPT and other AI models

ChatGPT has its issues. To work well, generative AI models require millions of data points and significant computing power. They also need human input at the beginning and end of each process. For example, a person has to give ChatGPT a prompt so it can generate a response. Then, the person has to evaluate the response, and if necessary, provide new prompts to refine the final output. Because generative AI depends on data to produce things, it has inherent bias. It learns from the information you give it. Even if it’s bad information.

Open AI admits ChatGPT is not good at math calculations. For example, if you tell ChatGPT that 10 + 9 = 20, it will carry that incorrect information forward during your chat with it.

Also, ChatGPT is trained on data up to 2021, so you cannot use it to generate up to date text about breaking news or current events. Also, since it is easy to manipulate, it may produce offensive, biased responses and misinformation.

What to watch for with ChatGPT

Like all technology, ChatGPT offers benefits and drawbacks. As a creative writer, I join the ranks of artists, journalists, and creatives who worry AI generated content may replace the work I do. However, ChatGPT is good at filler language and basic document generation, but it can’t write a novel. I’ve read some songs and poems written by ChatGPT. They are not good. So hopefully AI won’t take over the author world.

Educators worry ChatGPT will make it easier to cheat. Students can ask GPT to write an essay on The Great Gatsby, for example. Or to write a paragraph explaining the Krebs Cycle for biology class. Universities are scrambling to respond to the implications of ChatGPT. Some professors are contemplating oral exams and in class writing assignments, with, dare I say it, pen and paper! (This old Word Nerd thinks that’s a good idea with or without ChatGPT.)

One of my biggest concerns is regulation of AI. Or the lack thereof. Currently, artists are suing Microsoft and other tech companies over AI models. The artists say AI models scrape images and text from the internet to create items that are basically collages of original work. The AI models do not ask for permission to use the copyrighted material, nor is AI currently required to follow any licensing guidelines. The artists say that’s intellectual property theft, and I agree.  

AI can blur the lines between what is human made and what is computer made. We already have trouble figuring out if what we read on the internet is true. Generative AI has just complicated that problem.

And what about accountability and responsibility? If a generative AI model produces something offensive, inaccurate, or slanderous, and it goes viral, who is to blame? The person who prompted AI to create the offensive material, or the company that runs the AI model?

When I tried to log in to ChatGPT, this is what I got. I assume AI wrote this speech.

We do not have legal and ethical standards established to govern AI and its use, and we need them. Quickly. You may be thrilled with the possibility of AI. It may scare you. But we all should be paying attention. Generative AI is here, and we need to make sure we use it wisely.

What are your thoughts on ChatGPT? How are you staying informed?

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Improving vocabulary

Do you know what skeevy means?

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I was typing on my laptop, focused on achieving my writing goal for the day, when this alert took over my screen:

Screen shot of a Windows Detector Warning
This looks official, right? But check out that phone number. Skeevy.

The notice had the official Windows logo. An audio warning eclipsed my Spotify playlist and told me to call the number on the screen as soon as possible. I examined the number. Everything else about this warning seemed legit, but that phone number, with the skeevy 620 area code, gave me pause.

What- you don’t know what skeevy means? Let the Word Nerd explain.

My eldest introduced me to skeevy last week. He was explaining how his employer switched to a new health care plan that requires employees to upload all kinds of personal data, including daily steps, sleep records, and exercise logs, to earn a discount on health insurance premiums.

He shook his head. “It’s skeevy, man. I feel like they can use that data to build some kind of profile on me.”

When I asked if skeevy was new slang among Gen Z, he assured me it was a real word and promptly looked it up. He was right. (This is also the child who introduced me, and therefore you, to scuffed.)

skee·​vy [ˈskē-vē ] adjective; morally or physically repulsive : disgusting, sleazy

According to Merriam-Webster, “skeevy probably comes from skeeve “to disgust, be disgusted by” (borrowed from the stem of Italian schifare “to loathe, feel disgust for,” earlier “to shun, avoid,” borrowed from Old French eschiver) — more at eschew.”

Although skeevy is classified as slang, it’s first known use was in 1976. Way before Gen Z. It reminds me of another Word Nerd Word: smarmy.

So, getting back to that skeevy blue message on my laptop, before I touched any key and certainly before I dialed that number, I searched “Windows Defender pop up” on my phone. Turns out, this is a phishing scam that will introduce a virus to your computer if you call the number. I read this article on the scam, made sure my internet browser settings were returned to default, cleared my browser history, and ran a full (not quick) scan of my laptop. McAfee found a virus and fixed it.

Whew, those internet pirates are getting sophisticated. Do not be fooled! Trust your skeevy sensor!

What interesting word have you heard lately?

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Great content for when you are stuck at home sick

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COVID got me over Christmas. It started with a sore throat, then the headache, then the obligatory swab of the nostrils. The timing wasn’t fabulous, but we made it work. To be honest, I actually enjoyed some time to myself to rest, read, and recover. And, since we have at least two more months of winter, (three where I live!) I’m sharing three things I enjoyed while isolating in my room. I hope they will help you pass the time when you are feeling not so great.

Lessons in Chemistry by Bonnie Garmus

A dear friend dropped this gem off to me when she learned I was isolating. Although Lessons in Chemistry deals with serious topics, like misogyny, sexual assault, and loss, it’s also a very fun book. The main character is plucky and undeterred the constraints society tries to impose on her.

Fun, witty, and compelling! Feminists must read!

It’s 1962 and Elizabeth Zott has lost the love of her life as well as her job as a research chemist. Each day reminds her of the things she cannot have because she’s a woman: the masters degree she worked so hard for; credibility as a chemist; the freedom to live without judgement. But despite all that, Zott never loses her sense of self.

She’s a single mother, and she needs money. So when she’s offered the starring role on a cooking show, she takes it. Her producer thinks she’s going to wear tight dresses and act sexy on camera. Instead, Zott teaches her rapt female audience about the chemistry of cooking, how to poison your unappreciative husband with just the right mushroom, and the benefits of pursuing a dream. At the end of each show, she looks into the camera and says, “Kids, go set the table. Your mother needs a minute.”

Oh, if only Elizabeth Zott really gave cooking lessons in 1962! Or, dare I say, now. Witty, strong, resourceful, and nonconforming, Elizabeth Zott will have you laughing and cheering. If you liked Where’d You Go, Bernadette?, you’ll like Lessons in Chemistry.

Truly Devious by Maureen Johnson

Truly Devious is a YA mystery series from Maureen Johnson. I just finished book #3 and have loved each one. The main character of the series, Stephanie “Stevie” Bell, loves true crime and solving mysteries. Her avid interest lands her at the prestigious Ellingham Academy in the the mountains of Vermont. The school was established in the 1930s by Albert Ellingham, a wildly successful businessman with a desire to educate. Stevie has gotten herself to Ellingham to solve crime of the century- the kidnapping and murder of Ellingham’s wife Iris and the disappearance of his daughter, Alice in 1936.

But just as Stevie is learning important information about the Ellingham case, a fellow student dies under suspicious circumstances. Was it an accident, or murder? Soon Stevie is working on two mysteries cases.

Over the course of three books, Stevie collects clues to the Ellingham case as well as the present day deaths that occur at the school. She also must learn to navigate her own anxiety, her struggles with panic attacks, and her first foray into the complicated and confusing game of romance.

Johnson develops unique and compelling characters in Truly Devious. They are observant, witty, and bound to make bad decisions. She also maintains a sense of suspense across the three books. At the end of book one, I literally lifted my head and shouted, “You stinker!” to Johnson for leaving me in such a cliffhanger. Luckily, since I’m late to the series, I could get the next book right away.

Note: I listened to the audio books. The narrator, Kate Rudd, was at times a little stilted in her reading. She seemed to get better over the course of the series… or I just got used to her.

Bad Sisters on Apple TV+

Sometimes when you’re sick, you don’t feel like reading. You just want to lay down and watch something. If so, check out the Bad Sisters series on Apple TV+. Set in Ireland, Bad Sisters tells the story of the five tightly knit Garvey girls. Each has her quirks and her secrets. One, Grace, is married to an absolute prick, named JP. As her husband constantly gaslights her into believing she is weak and unworthy, Grace wastes away. Her sisters fear she will fade into a shadow of the girl they once knew, and so, they decide to get rid of the prick.

But how? A series of hilarious missions ensues. It’s dark comedy, sure, but it also champions family, loyalty, and standing up for yourself and the people you love.

I recommend using the subtitles, because those Irish accents can be hard to follow. This is good watching until the next season of Ted Lasso drops. (If you like Bad Sisters, also check out Derry Girls on Netflix.)

Have you been sick this winter? What have you read and/or watched during recovery?

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Improving vocabulary

What you need to know about “gaslighting”

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Gaslighting – I’ve heard the term thrown around, but never understood what it meant. Apparently, I’m not alone. At the end of 2022, Merriam-Webster made gaslighting it’s word of the year. Apparently, lookups of gaslighting increased 1740% in 2022. There was high interest in the word throughout the year.

So let’s break it down – what is gaslighting, anyway?

Origin and definition

The term comes from a play called Gaslighting written in 1938. It tells the story of a man trying to make his wife believe she’s going crazy. He’s doing something secretive in the attic to make the house’s gas lights dim, but he tells her the lights aren’t dimming. He wants to convince her she can’t trust her own thoughts.

Gaslighting was first used in the mid 20th century to describe the manipulation depicted in the play. Here is the official MW definition:

psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence and self-esteem, uncertainty of one’s emotional or mental stability, and a dependency on the perpetrator

Merriam-Webster

Of late, “gaslighting” is being used to refer to general deception that is part of a bigger plan and usually for personal gain. In the age if mis- and disinformation, amid the cries of “fake news”, gaslighting is used to call out perceived deception.

A perfect example

I watched an apt representation of gaslighting while binging the series The Morning Show while I was in isolation with COVID over the holidays. In the series, Steve Carell plays sexual predator Mitch Kessler. Kessler is fired from The Morning Show after allegations of sexual misconduct emerge.

In the episode called “Lonely at the Top,” we watch Kessler manipulate a young junior booker into sexual relations. In a later episode, we see the girl confront Kessler about that night. She says, “I don’t remember it the way you do.” Kessler responds with anger and self-righteous vigor, accusing her of using him for a promotion. Ha! Gaslighting at it’s finest. And, to the show’s credit, we see the catastrophic impact on the young victim.

Now that I understand the term better, I am sad to realize a few people I love have been victims of gaslighting. It’s important to know what gaslighting means, and even more important to perceive when it is happening, especially in the current environment when disinformation and misinformation run rampant.

What terms from pop culture or social media are you curious about? Please share in the comments!

Happy New Year!

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